The most frequently expressed complaint women have about men
is that men don't listen. Either a man completely ignores her when she speaks
to him, or he listens for a few beats, assesses what is bothering her, and then
proudly puts on his Mr. Fix-It cap and offers her a solution to make her feel
better. He is confused when she doesn't appreciate this gesture of love. No
matter how many times she tells him that he's not listening, he doesn't get it
and keeps doing the same thing. She wants empathy, but he thinks she wants
solutions.
The most frequently expressed complaint men have about women
is that women are always trying to change them. When a woman loves a man she
feels responsible to assist him in
growing and tries to help him improve the way he does
things. She forms a home-Improvement committee, and he becomes her primary
focus. No matter how much he resists her help, she persists-waiting for any
opportunity to help him or tell him what to do. She thinks she's nurturing him,
while he feels he's being controlled. Instead, he wants her acceptance.
These two problems can finally be solved by first
understanding why men offer solutions and why women seek to improve. Let's pre
tend to go back in time, where by observing life on Mars and
Venus --beforethe planets discovered one another or came to Earth-we can gain
some insights into men and women.
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